|
|
|
All-Natural HGH Releasers- Does Neugenisis really work?
I have had an interest in exploring and researching the Antiaging, HGH industry and find it essential to issue this report based on my findings and experiences in this overcrowded marketplace. My work is based on the committment to provide an...
Don't Get Cancer
One antidote to cancer is information
In general our responses to cancer are converging, but very slowly. Presently all cancer authorities are agreed on only one thing:
cancer cannot take hold in a healthy immune system ...
How Your Constipation Causes Toxicity
Having regular constipation can lead to some serious illnesses. Fecal matter should move through your colon easily and in a short time. When fecal matter remains in your colon for days, your colon becomes toxic and spreads this toxicity into...
Natural Treatment For Depression - Is There An Alternative?
Many people who are suffering from mild to moderate depression, are choosing to either forego drugs entirely, or to supplement the minimum dosage their doctor will prescribe, with natural treatment for depression.
This can include a number of...
New Surgical Treatment Options for Hernias
Hernia repair is one of the most commonly performed surgical procedures worldwide. In fact, there are over 600,000 hernia repair surgeries performed each year in the U.S. alone. A hernia is a weakness or defect in the abdominal muscles which can...
|
|
| |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Find The Courage To Know The Truth
Find The Courage To Know The Truth
Helaine Iris
© 2004
“Making the decision to have a child--it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” Elizabeth Stone
My daughter amazes me. She’s just been through a roller coaster growth cycle. I’m going to share this vulnerable, recent event from her life that has beautifully illustrates a powerful life lesson. I have her permission to share this story with you.
It all started about six months ago when she began her senior year of high school. To give you some background, our daughter, who tends to be on the reserved side, is not a risk taker, and attends a very small, private, alternative school in rural Vermont. There are 10 kids in her class and for the most part they all socialize with each other.
It’s a close-knit group of students. There’s not a lot of a potential romantic option in such a small pond yet my daughter began to develop a crush on one of her classmates. As the year progressed and social events increased and friendships deepened, her feelings for this boy deepened as well.
I was delighted she was talking to me about her experiences and feelings all along the way. We spent many a conversation exploring how one deals with having feelings for someone when you’re uncertain if your feelings are to be returned. We discussed at length possible strategies for approaching the conversation. We considered the pros and cons of letting things naturally unfold vs. trying to second-guess where we thought this young man might be based on his interactions with her.
Over months we talked and talked. She expressed her hopes, her fear of rejection; ultimately, she feared that if she told the truth of how she felt, it would ruin the friendship, which was clearly valuable to her.
About a month ago the tension was approaching fever pitch for her. The friendship had grown the crush turned to love, and they were beginning to spend serious time together. She was filled with the fantasy of how wonderful it would be if the relationship moved to the next level. Still she was unable to ask this young man the seemingly simple question, “do you like me and want to be more than friends?”
It became painfully clear to me that my daughter was avoiding having the conversation because she was afraid to know the truth. On a deep level she was convinced that she was going to be rejected. The distress of not knowing and the tension it created although miserable was safer than facing possible
disappointment. It was very understandable and yet, something needed to give.
What truth are you resisting facing?
I often experience this very human phenomenon with my clients. The tendency to avoid the truth inadvertently creates complicated, energy draining situations: from relationship issues to not wanting to hire a bookkeeper to sort out your finances because of what you’re afraid you might discover.
If you’re afraid of seeking the truth because you believe that your worst fear will come true ask yourself if you can really know for sure that it will. Isn’t it just as possible that you might be worrying for nothing? How much energy does it take to stay in the dark?
If you’re afraid because you don’t have the confidence to get through whatever tough emotions arise look for evidence from your past that you can. When have you survived and actually grown from other challenging life lessons? Building a support system to help you deal with what ever comes up can be invaluable and confidence building as well.
Finally, the day came. My daughter told us she couldn’t take it anymore. She found the courage to face her fears and decided she was ready to tell him the truth. My husband and I took her out to our favorite Sunday morning breakfast restaurant and coached her. By the end of our meal she was ready and drove off to meet him.
There is a happy ending to the story, but not the happily ever after kind. It turned out the young man didn’t return her feelings, he was happy being great friends with her. She came home heartbroken yet not devastated AND most importantly, relieved that the truth was out on the table and she could be free to be real with him. She activated her support system in a big way and began to recover.
Yes, it took a few days to sort it all out, and the friendship has grown. They’re communicating on a more satisfying level. What an incredible opportunity for a seventeen year old to learn how to face truth and build self-confidence in the process. My daughter amazes me.
It’s YOUR life…imagine the possibilities!
About the Author
Helaine Iris is a certified Life Coach, writer and teacher who loves her life. She works with individuals, and self-employed professionals, who want to thrive in their business while crafting a life that's in absolute alignment with their highest ideals. For a solution focused, free initial consultation visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com
|
|
|
|
|
| The Alternative Dictionaries |
| Includes a list of slang terms and phrases in various languages. |
| www.notam02.no |
|
| Free-Codecs.com :: Download Real Alternative 1.51 : Real ... |
| Download Real Alternative 1.51 : Real Alternative will allow you to play RealMedia files without having to install RealPlayer/RealOne Player. |
| www.free-codecs.com |
|
| Free-Codecs.com : QuickTime Alternative 1.76 final : QuickTime ... |
| Download QuickTime Alternative 1.76 : QuickTime Alternative will allow you to play QuickTime files (.mov, .qt and other extensions) without having to ... |
| www.free-codecs.com |
|
| AlterNet: Home |
| Syndication service and online community of the alternative press, featuring news stories from alternative newsweeklies, magazines and web publications. |
| www.alternet.org |
|
| Open Directory - Health: Alternative |
| the entire directory, only in Health/Alternative ... "Alternative" search on:. AltaVista - A9 - AOL - Ask - Clusty - Gigablast - Google - Lycos - MSN ... |
| dmoz.org |
|
| Alternative Radio |
| A weekly one-hour public affairs radio program that provides analyses and views that are ignored or distorted in most media. |
| www.alternativeradio.org |
|
| The Alternative Medicine Homepage |
| Information on unconventional, unorthodox, unproven, or alternative, complementary, innovative, integrative therapies. Maintained by Charles B. Wessel, ... |
| www.pitt.edu |
|
| Alternative Medicine, Home for Natural Remedies & Healthy Solutions |
| Complementary and alternative medicine information about common health conditions, including natural remedies, holistic healthcare, healing foods, ... |
| www.alternativemedicine.com |
|
| Alternative rock - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia |
| Alternative rock (also called alternative music [1] or simply ... The music now known as alternative rock was known by a variety of terms before ... |
| en.wikipedia.org |
|
| EERE: Alternative Fuels Data Center Home Page |
| Provides information on alternative vehicle fuels and transportation technologies and related legislation. The center also distributes the newsletter ... |
| www.eere.energy.gov |
|
| Alternative Comics: Publisher of cool comic books & graphic novels |
| Alternative Comics, publishers of cool comic books, releases some of the most original and intelligent titles being created today. |
| www.indyworld.com |
|
| Alternative Tentacles - Store |
| Alternative Tentacles Records supplies the world with punk rock music from the Dead Kennedys, Nomeansno, and Jello Biafra. Featuring secure online ordering. |
| www.alternativetentacles.com |
|
| Google Directory - Health > Alternative |
| Related Categories: Health > Animal > Alternative Medicine (498) Science > Science in Society > Skeptical Inquiry (179) ... |
| www.google.com |
|
| The Alternative Museum |
| Free of physical restrictions, it presents online digital exhibitions, and live webcast events. Headed by international curators with cyber artist ... |
| www.alternativemuseum.org |
|
| Centre for Alternative Technology Home Page |
| CAT aims to 'inspire, inform, and enable' people to live more sustainably. A solutions driven organisation, offering practical solutions to environmental ... |
| www.cat.org.uk |
|
| Los Angeles Alternative |
| LA's only alternative weekly that is locally-owned and independent, bringing you the people, arts and ideas that make Los Angeles the center of the ... |
| www.laalternative.com |
|
| NewsLink | Newspapers | U.S. | Alternative |
| Updated links to all Alternative newspapers (US) from NewsLink Associates. |
| newslink.org |
|
|