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Antique Diamond Rings – Bringing the Past Back to Life
We live today in an increasingly disposable culture, where everything comes in plastic wrapping and needs to be replaced every year or so. Is it any wonder that amidst this cacophony of the temporary that many people are looking for a greater sense...
Catch-22
Direct Answers - Column for the week of February 16, 2004
I have been married for a little over seven years, with one 2-year-old son and another on the way. Over time, I believe my wife and I have grown apart. Sexually, we never connected.
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Essential Ingredient
Direct Answers - Column for the week of September 15, 2003
I have a couple of questions for you. If a person no longer feels they love their spouse, is it time to divorce?
Also, do you think a person who has had an affair can change enough...
Get a Prenuptial Agreement before Your Next Marriage
While signing a prenuptial agreement can be one of the all-time romantic turnoffs, for people heading into their second marriage, a prenuptial agreement can give the trade-off of a better relationship through the security of financial and life...
Top Ten List of What to Do and What Not to Do in Relationships
Most of us who have been intimately involved with someone beyond the infatuation stage know that relationships are like a rollercoaster ride. When things are good, they are very, very good. When things are bad, they are very, very bad. As a...
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The Secret To Success In Courtship And Marriage, Sex And Happiness (Part 5)
Those who are very young when they marry have three strikes against them. --PROFESSOR MARCIA LASSWELL.
Are you ready for marriage? Hold your answer until you know whether you are qualified to go into it. First know that there is nothing like trial marriage. When God instituted the first marriage between our first parents, Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden, he did not tell them to try it first, and dump it afterward. It was for life; and nothing would break it excerpt adultery, or perhaps death. (Genesis 2: 18, 23, 24; Matthew 19: 3 9) So know that this union is for life, and that you will even go through tribulations in course of the marriage. -- 1 Corinthians 7: 28.
Now how do you answer the following questions:
Do I have great expectations?
That is the first major problem. Because you are not going to see that wonderland that you expected after the honeymoon. The scales will fall from your eyes. Consider these life experiences.
We thought that we could come and go, do as we pleased, . . . but it isnt that way.
Many teenagers get married to play house. . . . but thats not the way it is.
After I got married I found out that the great thrill of sex wears off very soon and then we started having real problems.
So do not have great romantic expectations. Childhood marriages -- physical immaturity, may blur your vision and understanding of married life.
Am I ready for my roles?
Some people enter marriage without even knowing their roles in the family. The husband fails to provide material support, and the wife neglects her housekeeping role.
Married men are reported to be still hanging out late at night, drinking with friends, away from their wives. Even those who work hard to maintain the family are frustrated. This is hard work said one. Will I ever get some relief?
Can I solve money problems?
This is the
greatest cause of marital problems. Some can not provide money to support the family, and where money is available, the problem is overspending. In the end, families have become heavily indebted, while others pack to live with their parents. In extreme cases, divorce becomes the solution.
Do I have a compatible mate?
Being compatible does not mean that you and your partner must agree on everything under the sun. Or that your mate should be able to play baseball since you are a baseball star. No.
But if you are miles apart on almost everything -- work, recreation, attitude, and beliefs, you should know that you are not equally matched.
Consider one woman who thought that her marriage must work because her partner was so handsome, so strong, such a good athlete and very popular. Was she being realistic? No. She was dreaming of Shangri-La, or building castles in the air, as they say. The marriage collapsed!
Have I thoroughly examined myself?
So ask yourself if you are the type that can make vows and keep them. Ask if your goals in life will affect your marriage. Find out if you can support or manage a household. Check to see if you are mature to handle trials that will surface later in the marriage.
If your answers are positive, if you think that you have the physical, mental and spiritual maturity to go into marriage, then ask yourself this question; what are the keys to family happiness? Do you know them?
Now, lets see.
(To be continued)
Copyright ) 2002, all rights reserved
About the Author:
ARTHUR ZULU, is the author of the best - selling book, HOW TO WRITE A BEST-SELLER. Download your copy and FREE excerpt at : http://www.1stbooks.com/bookview/10975 The above article is taken from a book of the same title, and the book is for sale. For contacts , mailto : controversialwriter@yahoo.com
About the Author
ARTHUR ZULU, is the author of the best - selling book, HOW TO WRITE A BEST-SELLER.
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