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Effective Ways To Deal With Sadness And Grief, Part 1
No one ever has a problem dealing with happiness or feeling good. When joy comes into our life we experience it freely, but when sadness or grief is present, we often struggle with them.
We live in a culture that tells us to "put on a happy face," and this can make it very difficult to be comfortable with sadness. Yet sadness and grief are a normal part of everyone's life. Whether they are caused by a major loss such as the death of a loved one, or smaller everyday setbacks, we can learn to live with them with greater ease.
Not only can we become more at ease with these feelings, it is vital to our health and well-being that we handle grief and sadness in a healthy way.
The risks of not dealing effectively with emotions became evident when a neighbor of ours lost his wife to illness several years ago. When I offered my sympathy, he quickly denied that he had any feelings about it. Within a week he had disposed of all of her belongings and basically stated that everything to do with her illness and death were over and done.
Not surprisingly, his health has declined steadily since then. He has told me of one complaint after another. At first no cause was found for his symptoms, but as time went on, real physical problems have developed (all of which are known to be stress-related).
Of course this is an extreme example, but it illustrates the importance of how we deal with our emotions. It's well worth the effort to explore how you handle these feelings, and learn new skills.
This article focuses on how to deal with the emotion of sadness. Part 2 will explore grief, which involves a whole array of emotions and experiences that are caused by a major loss, such as the death of a loved one.
Accepting Our Sadness and Letting it Pass Through
Holistic approaches to health have long realized the role that our emotions play in our health, and modern medicine is now taking this more and more into account.
For a healthy emotional life, we need to honor all of our emotions and allow them room for expression. When sadness comes, we need to allow ourselves to feel it fully. It helps to understand that it is a normal, natural reaction to loss, and not an indication that there is something wrong with us.
Any loss can trigger sadness -- it might even accompany a beautiful sunset that signals the end of the day. We might not always know what makes us feel sad -- it could even be a shift in our body chemistry with its changing hormones, blood sugar levels, etc.
It helps to let go of the need to understand all of our emotional reactions or to feel that we have to be able to justify them. What is important is that we not resist or suppress our emotions. Allowed to be present, the emotion will simply "pass through".
In addition to accepting our sadness as a normal part of life, and allowing it to be present, there are some other ways we can help ourselves through sad times that I have compiled below: Five Key Ways to Help Yourself Through Sad Times
1. Share what you are feeling with a trusted friend or family member, in particular someone who can listen without judging us or trying to change you. The simple experience of being "accompanied" with your feelings can be comforting.
2. Take time to do something that is nourishing and soothing to you. Take a leisurely walk, get a massage, curl up with a good book, do gardening or other favorite hobby. The #1 Recommended Relaxation CD ... by Meditation Expert (and Author of this Article) Mary Maddux with Meditation Music Expert Richard Maddux Eliminate Stress Immediately Calm Your Mind Soothe Your Emotions Create a State of Deep Relaxation in Your Body Complete Relaxation in a Natural, Effortless Way Mary Maddux's Voice has been Called "Soothing and Healing" Background Music by Respected Meditation Music Veteran Richard Maddux Over 70 Minutes Long Just $15.49 FREE SHIPPING Anywhere in the World through SixWise.com
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3. Find a way to slow down and relax. This will allow the feelings to be released. Meditate, listen to some relaxing music, do some simple stretches.
4. Write in a journal or diary. When we do this, it feels as if we have an ideal listener with whom we can confide. Expressing and exploring your feelings in this way can bring perspective and comfort.
5. Learn to be your own best friend. Step back and view yourself with compassion and love. Notice if you are judging yourself harshly ("you should be over this by now"), and find sympathy for yourself instead.
Many people have found my Pure Relaxation and Sleep Easy CDs to be helpful tools for softening rough periods in their lives, making it easier to heal emotionally. My guided meditations include gentle encouragement to allow the emotions to flow freely, while my husband's music in the background is soothing and relaxing.
Sometimes it is easier to relax with the help of a guided audio, so if you (like most people) have difficulty relaxing, we encourage you to try our CDs or find some other relaxation aid that will work for you.
When to Get Professional Help
Sadness that is intense and long-lasting may be depression. Depressed individuals tend to feel helpless and hopeless and to blame themselves for having these feelings.
If feelings of extreme sadness or despair last for at two weeks or longer and interfere with activities of daily living -- such as working, or even eating and sleeping -- it is advisable to seek professional help. If accompanied by thoughts of death or suicide, seek help immediately. (See the previous SixWise article, How to Keep Your Spirits High During the Upcoming Holidays, for detailed guidelines from the National Institute of Mental Health on when to seek professional help.) SixWise.com columnist Mary Maddux has worked in the healing arts in both conventional and alternative settings. With an MS in clinical social work, she has worked as a counselor, helping people cope with the stresses of life. While working as a hospice counselor, she was introduced to various alternative healing arts. She eventually developed a healing arts practice and has taught many workshops.
She and husband Richard are producers of two renowned CDs, Sleep Easy: Guided Meditation for Deep Rest, and Pure Relaxation: Guided Meditations for Body, Mind & Spirit. Mary is the "voice" of these CDs while Richard, an accomplished composer of music for meditation with 20 years experience, created the music.
About the Author: This article was provided by the world's #1 most popular and trusted holistic living e-newsletter -- FREE to you right now at http://www.SixWise.com! The old way of thinking: "holistic living" pertains only to personal health. The new way of thinking: "holistic living" means prevention of the negative and adherence to the positive in all SIX practical areas of life: relationships, finances, career, home environment, safety and health. With the http://SixWise.com e-newsletter, you will get holistic wisdom from the world's top experts in all six of these areas -- completely FREE with a simple sign-up (and a guaranteed no-spam policy!) at http://www.SixWise.com.
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