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Deadly Relationship Habits
How many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do? I doubt that I’m the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us...
Get A Toned Stomach In Time For Summer Fun
One of the most common fitness questions this time of year is “How can I tone my stomach for swimsuit season”? Find out the myths and the secrets to getting toned abs.
One of the most common fitness questions this time of year is “How can I...
Healthy Garden Soil - Composting; how, when, & why
In the soft, warm bosom of a decaying compost heap, a transformation from life to death and back again is taking place. Life is leaving the living plants of yesterday, but in their death these leaves and stalks pass on their vitality to the coming...
Paradigmatic Parallels - part 3 - Morphic Resonance
A morphogenetic description of reality
As we move forward into the techno society of the future, it is important to realize that the rights of the individual are paramount. We should not be swept away into the mind dulling sheepish attitude...
Under Their Thumb ... Tripping The Parental Triggers!
Some of my clients have come to me feeling like their worlds were not under their own control. They felt as though everyone else ran their lives and had some aspect of control in everything that they did. I asked them to note some specific...
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Clean Your Room!!
How many times have you said that as a parent? Or...how many times have you heard that as a kid?
The whole "keep-your-room-clean war" happens in just about every household, but believe it or not, there are ways to make it not such a headache for both kids and parents.
The first thing you as a parent must remember is that every kid is different. Just like every adult is different. YOUR idea of clean is most likely not the same as your child's.
Also, all people (adults and kids) organize a space in their own way.
Let me give you example: My five year old son's idea of an organized room is that everything is in it's place. He likes things lined up where he can see them and when he cleans his room, everything goes back in the same spot where it belongs.
Now my 7 year old daughter, who is the creative type, doesn't really care where it goes. She has the "out of sight, out of mind" mindset. So trying to get her to put things in the same place every time is like pulling teeth!
After realizing and accepting that both kids are completley different I had to come up with different ways to help them keep their room clean.
What I just said is KEY! Coming up with ways to HELP them keep their rooms clean. If they have no system in place or nowhere to keep their things, then cleaning their room will seem like an impossible task. But, if you as the parent can adapt their rooms to their personality type, it will make things a lot easier.
Now back to my kids...For my son, having things labeled is a big help. He has a bin
labeled "army men", one labeled "dinosaurs", etc. So when I say, "please clean up your army men", he knows exactly where they go.
As for my daughter...I tried the labeling technique and what did she do? She took them off because she didn't like it. She said, "I know where my things go". So for her, dividing her room into zones (dress-up, doll house etc.) with a bin or two for each helps her keep her room clean.
I tried having one drawer for all her dress-up shoes and one drawer for all her dress-up accessories, but it just didn't work. She wants them all in one bin and doesn't mind digging for her things. Digging drives me crazy, but for her, it's just fine...and maybe even fun.
Last but not least, just walking into your kid's room and saying "Clean Your Room!" is usually not the best way to go. For toddlers, elementary age and for some teenagers it is a good idea to be specific.
For example: "Please put all your dress-up clothes in the box and all your doll clothes in their box." That way they have a specific mission. Instead of just looking at their room in a state of confusion, you have given them some direction.
One note to parents: Keeping YOUR room clean also will set a GREAT example for your kids! Hey, just making the bed makes a world of difference ;).
About the Author
Julie Bonner is the co-owner of www.cool-kid-bedrooms.com and has had extensive experience in organizing and decorating kids' bedrooms as well as all other areas of the home. She lives in Georgia with her husband and three children.
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