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Being Present: what Samurai teach us about Multitasking!
Yesterday, my husband and I saw the movie ‘The Last Samurai’. Usually I don’t watch movies with a lot of violence, because it makes me uncomfortable. But my interest was piqued when I saw an interview with Tom Cruise, who was curiously unable to...
Being Today's Sensitive Man
A humorous look at sensitive men. How to balance between being a sensitive guy, and
For thousands of years, men have played a consistent, reliable role in society. Beginning with the cave man, we provided security, protection, and food for...
The Neuro-Science Of Losing The Weight You Hate And Keeping It Off Past Summer
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Very Precise Fortune Cookies
I cracked open the fortune cookie and read the little slip of paper on the inside. Immediately I realized that it had been written by a weather forecaster.
"You will be approached in the late afternoon by a pink polka-dot octopus..."
It...
Why More Women Should Consider a Career in Computer Programming
Everyone knows that computer programming is a heavily male-dominated field. I think this is unfortunate. Over the years, I've come to conclude that there is a great deal that women can contribute to this field.
Why is computer programming...
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Secrets for Powerful Women -- How to find and KEEP a man
Ultra-successful women can be a powerhouse in a relationship
just as they are in the boardroom. They may refuse to let a guy
open the car door (or any door for that matter), or pay for
dinner. They are successful in many areas of their lives, and
capable of making great things happen in the world -- but when
you are out on a date, why the heck does they have to act, you
know, so much like you!
What happens to the dating dynamic when a man meets and begins
dating a woman who displays more male (Martian) than female
(Venusian) qualities?
Some women believe they can attract a man by acting toward him
the way that they would like him to act toward her. These women
mistakenly approach their relationships the way that they want
to be approached by men. They are repelled by the thought of a
needy man, so they are very careful not to need a man
themselves. They will loudly acknowledge that they are
self-sufficient and do not need anyone.
These women are surprised to hear that their self-reliant
attitude does not make them attractive. While they may initially
attract men with their confidence and responsible nature, the
end result will be that she does not let him pursue her and he
doesn't get what he needs in the relationship. She has no
appreciation for what he has to offer and he will not waste much
time waiting for her to shift her attitude.
Modern women have become so responsible for themselves that it
is no longer obvious why they need a man. Sometimes, the more
successful and responsible a woman is, the less inviting to a
man she becomes. Because savvy women have realized that being
needy is definitely a turn-off, sometimes they go overboard and
act overly aggressive in response to a man's attentions. They
may start to play the same games men play: they pull back, they
don't call, and they become indecisive and indifferent toward
the relationship.
Women today are looking for a new kind of relationship,
certainly not the kind that their parents may have had. They
need to learn new skills to achieve the kind of equality and
open communication that they want in a relationship. Many
successful women have learned to be assertive in the work world,
and carry that dominant behavior into the dating world, with
less than positive results. They simply haven't yet learned the
art of being assertive and feminine.
Men are attracted to women who can be pleased. When a man is
attracted to a woman, he gets excited because he anticipates
that he can make her happy and that, in turn, makes him feel
really good; it brings out the best of him. A man is excited by
the thought of winning a woman over -- he wants to make her
happy. Men feel
successful and fulfilled in a relationship when
she responds favorably to his pursuit and the things that he
does for her. It is very important to him that a woman let a man
know that she appreciates all of the little things that he does
for her.
Powerful women must develop the following three attributes to
ensure success in the dating arena:
* Self-assurance: A self-assured woman exudes an air of grace
and trust. She respects herself and is respected by the man in
her life. She assumes that a man will support her when she needs
it. She gets what she needs and does not have to do it all by
herself.
* Receptivity: A receptive woman is able to be flexible and
flow around obstacles in dating situations. She does not expect
to get more from the relationship than her partner is able to
give, and she does not become resentful when she feels that a
particular situation is not bringing her what she wants. She is
open to finding the good in any circumstance. Receptivity also
allows a woman to get what she wants in a relationship without
feeling like she has to give more than she is ready to give. She
may not always agree with her man, but she will still express an
attitude of love and trust.
* Responsiveness: A responsive woman lets a man know that he is
making her happy. She sends clear, authentic, and positive
messages that he is pleasing her. In fact, if a woman is not
pleased, it is best for her to give no response so that he will
not be discouraged from continuing to pursue her. Men thrive in
a relationship when they feel needed and appreciated.
Powerful women can build a fulfilling relationship with a man,
as long as they are careful not to overpower his attempts to
pursue and please. Men do want a woman who is self-assured; they
simply want her to appreciate all of the little things that he
is willing to do make her happy.
To learn how you can apply these techniques to your relationship
contact a Mars Venus Coach. Mars Venus Coaches are experts in
working with women and helping them to get what they want from
their relationships without having to compromise their values.
To learn more visit us on the web at http://www.askmarsvenus.com
About the author:
John Gray is the author of 15 best-selling books, including Men
Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, the number one best-selling
relationship book of the last decade. In the past ten years,
over 30 million Mars and Venus books have been sold in over 40
languages throughout the world.
An expert in the field of communication, John Gray's focus is to
help men and women understand, respect and appreciate their
differences in both personal and profes
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