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A Cure for Cancer
In my wildest imagination, I never dreamed of helping someone kick cancer over the phone!
One evening in 1985, the telephone rang. It was my brother John who lived in Washington, D.C. A call from my elder sibling was highly unusual. A year my...
Protect Your Home as Well as Your Family
How secure is your home? How accessible is your home?
How Often
do you ask yourself these questions. Your home is where you and your family want to be safe from the daily stresses of life and most definitely from crime. A burglary happens...
The Collapse of the American Standard of Living
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The Compression Of Time
Some of us may recall slow dancing in the 60s as the Rolling Stones wailed out
Some of us may recall slow dancing in the 60s as the Rolling Stones wailed out "Time is on my side, yes it is. " Not any more. We all can sing the chorus: "There's...
Use friendly discussions to advance your career
Think about all the different people that you chat with on a regular basis. This group most likely includes family, friends, classmates, neighbors, and co-workers. Then, think about the people that you have pleasant, often personal, discussions...
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TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
Living in our world today can be very stressful. While some of
the stress that we experience is actually useful for motivating
us, a point can be reached where it becomes very harmful,
physically, emotionally and even spiritually. Knowing how to
manage and even reduce the harmful effects of stress on a daily
basis, of staying balanced and centered as we encounter the many
stressors of everyday living, is crucial to our well being.
Among other things, taking care of ourselves will necessarily
involve us nurturing our physical body, of eating healthy foods,
of exercising. Learning how to take care of ourselves in this
respect is also very important for everyone as our experience of
stress can and does affect others as well.
Learning how to take care of ourselves also involves making
appropriate distinctions about ourselves, others and life in
general. One distinction that is crucial for our well being is
realizing how and from where much of our stress is primarily
generated. While some of the stressors that we face are apart of
what it is to be a human being, much of the stress that we
experience is of our own creation. A great deal of the stress
that we experience has its origin in our own personal story and
the meaning we make about life, in the thoughts that we think.
Once we understand that we are truly the cause in the matter,
that we are responsible for the thoughts that we create or
invent and that it is from these thoughts that much of our
stress is generated, then and only then will we begin to be able
to truly manage our stress and have the power to live the life
that we want and love. Blaming others or situations for that
which we experience will only limit our power, lead to
frustration and eventually a great deal of stress.
Becoming present to the fact that we have a tendency to
constantly evaluate, judge and even blame others, and especially
ourselves, is very important. How we conceive of others and
ourselves in this respect will make a huge difference in our
experience of life. For example, for some much of their life is
spent attempting to make others and themselves wrong, wrong for
what they think and do, wrong for what we think and do. Once we
make another wrong, especially ourselves, anger, anxiety, guilt,
frustration and even sadness will eventually follow and with it
a great deal of stress. A simple truth is that as human beings
we are all doing the best that we can at any given moment. If we
or others knew differently we would behave differently.
Another simple truth is that we are perfect, whole and complete
just as we are. It is our story about ourselves that does not
allow us to truly experience our own completeness. Making
mistakes in life does not make us wrong or flawed in some way
but only presents us with feedback and valuable opportunities
for growth.
Becoming present to how we make ourselves wrong, of
how we put ourselves down, allows us an opening to realize that
we are not what we do or think. Our true self is something much
different. Becoming present to our attempts to make others and
ourselves wrong in some manner will also create a cleaning for
us to begin to think, feel and behave differently. Once we fully
realize that we are perfect, whole and complete just as are, we
will bring forth into our lives experiences that will truly
empower us and others. It will be at this point that we will
begin to authentically take care of ourselves. Taking care of
ourselves in this respect will also involve taking care of our
true self, of unconditionally loving ourselves completely. It is
only when we truly love and accept ourselves, as we are, in the
present moment that we will be able to do so with others. We
always think, feel and behave towards others as we think, feel
and act towards ourselves.
One manner in which we can practice being who we truly are is
beginning to become aware of the thoughts and beliefs that exist
within us including and especially those that are self-limiting.
Meditation and other holistic, self-enhancement techniques of
this nature allow us this ability and opportunity to watch,
monitor and become present to our inner world, to the very
thoughts that generate our life and experiences. Such a process
will eventually allow us to truly understand that we are not our
thoughts and beliefs, that we are something different from, that
we are much more. Our thoughts are merely apart of the machinery
of being human.
Once present to the thoughts and beliefs that quickly, if not
instantly, move through our mind also allows us the opportunity
to reframe from impulsively acting upon them and as a result to
become free from their constraints and potential harm to us and
others. Such a meditative process, especially as it applies to
the thoughts and beliefs that we have about ourselves, is the
key to truly taking care of yourself. Such awareness will
eventually allow us to truly experience the fact that we are
good enough, just as we are, one that deserves to have a
wonderful and powerful life, that we truly are perfect, whole
and complete. Once we fully understand this for ourselves it
will allow us to get it about others, for those that we work
with and for those in our lives that we love. The end result of
such a meditative process is that much of the stress that we
experience, especially that which we create, will simply not
exist, allowing us to create or invent the life that we truly
want and love and to live it powerfully.
Harry Henshaw, Ed.D., L.M.H.C. http://www.enhancedhealing.com
About the author:
Dr Harry Henshaw is in private practice in North Miami Beach,
Florida. http://www.enhancedhealing.com
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