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Eclectic Paths to Integration Series – Psychological Models - Freud
Part three in a series of articles discusiing integrative maodels and proceedures. This section deals with Sigmund Freud's Psychoanalytic Theory
The Psychoanalytic schools of the twentieth century attempted to bring the psyche under the...
How to AssistTroubled Teens
What parents of a teen haven’t wondered where their sweet child went and who the angry and rebellious child is that took his or her place. After all, adolescence is a time of change. While each child is different, there are some behaviors that all...
Our Spiritual Light
We have a great power within.
Our Spiritual Light
It's a few minutes before midnight on the eve of the resurrection. It is the Orthodox Liturgy. The lights in the church go out. There is darkness. The darkness of ignorance, of sleep, of...
WHERE DO OUR ATTITUDES COME FROM?
I believe that heredity (the genes that you inherit) have some part in forming attitudes. However, most important in shaping them, is the family environment, especially in your early childhood: the impressionable years up to the age of seven. Also...
Your Condensed Guide For Working A Room
Working a room...if only it could be fun...or at least guaranteed productive. I am referring to that mandatory event that requires us to mix and mingle, to meet and greet.
Command performance events like a cocktail party, a business dinner,...
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WOULD YOU MAKE A GOOD ROOMMATE?
If you have decided to live with someone else, the most important thing to do is to take a good look at yourself as a potential roommate. Set aside at least an hour of your time to sit down with a piece of paper and a pencil and do some serious introspection. Don't skip this part, it's really valuable.
List Your Assets.
Start with the good stuff and give yourself a pat on the back. Make a list of all of the "pluses" you will bring to a roommate relationship. Here are a few examples, but take time to think up your own. Make sure you cover all three categories:
Personal: Sense of humor, ability to listen, non-smoker, morning person, etc.
Technical: Knowledge of plumbing, phenomenal cook, etc.
Material: Stereo, car, living room furniture, etc.
List Your Faults.
Now that you know you're not such a bad person, consider what "minuses" you will bring to a relationship. Be as honest as you would want your roommate to be with you. (If you can't seem to think of anything, you are kidding yourself). Again, here are a few examples to start you thinking:
Personal: Moodiness, sloppiness, you think all Beethoven music
is just random noise, etc.
Technical: You can't change a light bulb, don't know a carburetor from a radiator, etc.
Material: No furniture, cooking utensils, TV or stereo.
What Are Your Needs?
What do you want out of a roommate relationship, and what must you have? For example, must you have your own room? Do you fall apart if you don't sleep between 11:00 p.m. and 7:00 a.m.? This list is vital, so take your time.
Now Evaluate.
Take a good look at your lists and consider your priorities. What is there about you or your lifestyle that is absolutely crucial to you? If you have always been a slob/ smoker/ morning person, whatever, don't kid yourself into thinking you can change now. If you want to change, great! But don't decide to live with someone who is allergic to smoke just to see if it will make you quit. By the same token, decide what things you might be willing to compromise on to suit your roommate's tastes. Giving these matters some thought ahead of time will make it a lot easier when you actually start interviewing prospective roommate
About the Author
dan the roommate man
www.roommateexpress.com
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