Search
Related Links

 

 

Informative Articles

A Few Quick Pregnancy Fatigue Tips
If your pregnancy is anything like mine were, you are probably exhausted... all the time. It is not at all uncommon to experience pregnancy fatigue. It seems only natural that sustaining two lives drains you of more energy than only...

Bedridden Mother baby shower party
BEDRIDDEN Unfortunately, pregnancy is not a breeze for every mother. Some women have complications that can keep her bedridden at home or even at the hospital. For the expectant mother, waiting for the birth of a child from bed is lousy. A baby...

Being a Mom - Reflections on Mother's Day
Being a Mom – Reflections on Mother’s Day Since my daughter was born a little over 2 years ago, Mother’s Day has been a very special day for me. After all, I had carried her for 9 months and spent countless sleepless nights taking care of her...

Learning To See By Traveling With a Teddy Bear
Learning to see by Traveling With a Teddy Bear "We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly" Sam Keen This week, I had the pleasure of going to Knoxville to film two segments with...

Pregnancy Naturally
A rush of emotions. A little stick. Will it be pink! Or blue? Who should you tell first? What do you do now? Pregnancy can be a wonderful experience that is full of excitement and love and anxiety and tension. There are a lot of decisions...

 
Parenting - The Irrational Vocation

There are some grounds to assume that a cognitive dissonance is involved in feeling that children are more a satisfaction than a nuisance. Why do people bother with parenting? It is time consuming, exhausting, strains otherwise pleasurable and tranquil relationships to their limits. Still, humanity keeps at it: breeding.

It is the easiest to resort to Nature. After all, all living species breed and most of them parent. We are, all taken into consideration, animals and, therefore, subject to the same instinctive behaviour patterns. There is no point in looking for a reason: survival itself (whether of the gene pool or, on a higher level, of the species) is at stake. Breeding is a transport mechanism: handing the precious cargo of genetics down generations of "organic containers".

But this is a reductionist view, which both ignores epistemological and emotional realities – and is tautological, thereby explaining something in terms of itself. Calling something by a different name or describing the mechanisms involved in minute detail does not an explanation make.

First hypothesis: we bring children to the world in order to "circumvent" death. We attain immortality (genetically and psychologically – though in both cases it is imaginary) by propagating our genetic material through the medium of our offspring.

This is a highly dubious claim. Any analysis, however shallow, will reveal its weaknesses. Our genetic material gets diluted beyond reconstruction with time. It constitutes 50% of the first generation, 25% of the second and so on. If this were the paramount concern – incest should have been the norm, being a behaviour better able to preserve a specific set of genes (especially today, when genetic screening can effectively guard against the birth of defective babies). Moreover, progeny is a dubious way of perpetuating one's self. No one remembers one's great great grandfathers. One's memory is better preserved by intellectual feats or architectural monuments. The latter are much better conduits than children and grandchildren.

Still, this indoctrinated misconception is so strong that a baby boom characterizes post war periods. Having been existentially threatened, people multiply in the vain belief that they thus best protect their genetic heritage and fixate their memory.

In the better-educated, higher income, low infant mortality part of the world – the number of children has decreased dramatically – but those who still bring them to the world do so partly because they believe in these factually erroneous assumptions.

Second hypothesis: we bring children to the world in order to preserve the cohesiveness of the family nucleus. This claim can more plausibly be reversed: the cohesiveness of the social cell of the family encourages bringing children to the world. In both cases, if true, we would have expected more children to be born into stable families (ante or post facto) than into abnormal or dysfunctional ones. The facts absolutely contradict this expectation: more children are born to single parent families (between one third and one half of them) and to other "abnormal" (non-traditional) families than to the mother-father classic configuration. Dysfunctional families have more children than any other type of family arrangement. Children are an abject failure at preserving family cohesiveness. It would seem that the number of children, or even their very existence, is not correlated to the stability of the family. Under special circumstances, (Narcissistic parents, working mothers) they may even be a destabilizing factor.

Hypothesis number three: children are mostly born unwanted. They are the results of accidents and mishaps, wrong fertility planning, wrong decisions and misguided turns of events. The more sex people engage in and the less preventive measures they adopt – the greater the likelihood of having a child. While this might be factually true (family planning is all but defunct in most parts of the world), it neglects the simple fact that people want children and love them. Children are still economic assets in many parts of the world. They plough fields and do menial jobs very effectively. This still does not begin to explain the attachment between parents and their offspring and the grief experienced by parents when children die or are sick. It seems that people derive enormous emotional fulfilment from being parents. This is true even when the children were unwanted in the first place or are the results of lacking planning and sexual accidents. That children ARE the results of sexual ignorance, bad timing, the vigorousness of the sexual drive (higher frequency of sexual encounters) – can be proven using birth statistics among teenagers, the less educated and the young (ages 20 to 30).

People derive great happiness, fulfilment and satisfaction from their children. Is not this, in itself, a sufficient explanation? The pleasure principle seems to be at work: people have children because it gives them great pleasure. Children are sources of emotional sustenance. As parents grow old, they become sources of economic support, as well. Unfortunately, these assertions are not sustained by the facts. Increasing mobility breaks families apart at an early stage. Children become ever more dependent on the economic reserves of their parents (during their studies and the formation of a new family). It is not uncommon today for a child to live with and off his parents until the age of 30. Increasing individualism leaves parents to cope with the empty nest syndrome. Communication between parents and children has rarefied in the 20th century.

It is possible to think of children as habit forming (see: "The Habit of Identity"). In this hypothesis, parents – especially mothers – form a habit. Nine months of pregnancy and a host of social reactions condition the parents. They get used to the presence of an "abstract" baby. It is a case of a getting used to a concept. This is not very convincing. Entertaining a notion, a concept, a thought, an idea, a mental image, or a symbol very rarely leads to the formation of a habit. Moreover, the living baby is very different to its pre-natal image. It cries, it soils, it smells, it severely disrupts the lives of its parents. It is much easier to reject it then to transform it to a habit. Moreover, a child is a bad emotional investment. So many things can and do go wrong with it as it grows. So many expectations and dreams are frustrated. The child leaves home and rarely reciprocates. The emotional "returns" on an investment in a child are rarely commensurate with the magnitude of the investment.

This is not to say that people do NOT derive pleasure and fulfilment from their offspring. This is undeniable. Yet, it is neither in the economic nor in the mature emotional arenas. To have children seems to be a purely Narcissistic drive, a part of the pursuit of Narcissistic supply.

For further elaboration, please refer to: "Malignant Self Love – Narcissism Revisited" and the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) sections.

We are all Narcissists, to a greater or lesser degree. A Narcissist is a person who projects a (false) image to the people around him. He then proceeds to define himself by this very image reflected back at him. Thus, he regards people as mere instruments, helpful in his Sisyphean attempt at self-definition. Their attention is crucial because it augments his weak ego and defines its boundaries. The Narcissist feeds off their admiration, adoration and approval and these help him to maintain a grandiose (fantastic and delusional) sense of self. As the personality matures, Narcissism is replaced with the ability to empathize and to love. The energy (libido) initially directed at loving one's (false) self is redirected at more multidimensional, less idealized "targets": others. This edifice of maturity seems to crumble at the sight of one's offspring. The baby evokes in the parent the most primordial drives, a regression to infancy, protective, animalistic instincts, the desire to merge with the newborn and a sense of terror generated by such a desire (a fear of vanishing and of being assimilated). The parent relives his infancy and childhood through the agency of the baby. The newborn provides the parent with endless, unconditional and unbounded Narcissistic supply. This is euphemistically known as love – but it is really a form of symbiotic dependence, at least in the beginning of the relationship. Such narcissistic supply is addictive even to the more balanced, more mature, more psychodynamically stable of parents.

It enhances the parent's self-confidence, self esteem and buttresses his self image. It fast becomes indispensable, especially in the emotionally vulnerable position in which the parent finds himself. This vulnerability is a result of the reawakening and reconstruction of all the conflicts and unsolved complexes that the parent had with his own parents.

If explanation is true, the following should also hold true:

  • The higher the self confidence, the self esteem, the self worth, the clearer and more realistic the self image of the potential parent – the less children he will have (the Principle of the Conservation of the Ego boundaries)

  • The more sources of readily available Narcissistic supply – the less children are needed (the substitutability of Narcissistic sources of supply)

Sure enough, both predictions are validated by reality. The higher the education and the income of adults – the fewer children they tend to have. People with a higher education and with a greater income are more likely to have a more established sense of self worth. Children become counter-productive: not only is their Narcissistic input (supply) unnecessary, they can also hinder further progress.

Having children is not a survival or genetically oriented imperative. Had this been the case, the number of children would have risen together with free income. Yet, exactly the reverse is happening: the more children people can economically afford – the fewer they have. The more educated they are (=the more they know about the world and about themselves), the less


they seek to procreate. The more advanced the civilization, the more efforts it invests into preventing the birth of children: contraceptives, family planning, abortions. These all are typical of affluent, well educated societies.

And the more Narcissistic supply can be derived from other sources – the less do people resort to making children and to other procreative activities (such as sex). Freud described the mechanism of sublimation: the sex drive, the Eros (libido), can be "converted", "sublimated" into other activities. All the sublimatory channels and activities are Narcissistic in character: politics, art. They all provide what children do: narcissistic supply. They make children redundant. It is not by coincidence that people famous for their creativity tend to have less children than the average (most of them, none at all). They are Narcissistically self sufficient, they do not need children.

This seems to be the key to our determination to have children:

To experience the unconditional love that we received from our mothers, this intoxicating feeling of being loved without caveats, for what we are, with no limits, reservations, or calculations. This is the most powerful, crystallized source of Narcissistic supply. It nourishes our self-love, self worth and self-confidence. It infuses us with feelings of omnipotence and omniscience. In these, and other respects, it is a return to infancy.

Appendix

Question:

Is there a "typical" relationship between the Narcissist and his family?

Answer:

We are all members of a few families in our lifetime: the one that we are born to and the one(s) that we create. We all transfer hurts, attitudes, fears, hopes and desires – a whole emotional baggage – from the former to the latter. The narcissist is no exception.

The narcissist has a dichotomous view of humanity: humans are either Sources of Narcissistic Supply (and, then, idealised and over-valued) or do not fulfil this function (and, therefore, are valueless, devalued). The narcissist gets all the love that he needs from himself. From the outside he needs approval, affirmation, admiration, adoration, attention – in other words, externalised Ego boundary functions. He does not require – nor does he seek – his parents' or his siblings' love, or to be loved by his children. He casts them as the audience in the theatre of his inflated grandiosity. He wishes to impress them, shock them, threaten them, infuse them with awe, inspire them, attract their attention, subjugate them, or manipulate them. He emulates and simulates an entire range of emotions and employs every means to achieve these effects. He lies (narcissists are pathological liars – their very self is a false one). He plays the pitiful, or, its opposite, the resilient and reliable. He stuns and shines with outstanding intellectual, or physical (or anything else appreciated by the members of the family) capacities and achievements. When confronted with (young) siblings or with his own children, the narcissist is likely to undergo three reactive phases:

At first, he perceives his offspring as a threat to his Narcissistic Supply Sources (his turf, the Pathological Narcissistic Space). He does his best to belittle them, hurt (also physically) and humiliate them and then, when these reactions prove ineffective or counter productive, he retreats into an imaginary world of omnipotence. A period of emotional absence and detachment ensues. The narcissist indulges himself in daydreaming, delusions of grandeur, planning of future coups, nostalgia and hurt (the Lost Paradise Syndrome). The narcissist reacts this way to the birth of his children or to the introduction of new centres of attention to the family cell (even a new pet!).

Whatever the narcissist perceives to be his competition for scarce Narcissistic Supply is relegated to the role of the enemy. Where no legitimacy exists for the uninhibited expression of the aggression and hostility aroused by this predicament – the narcissist prefers to stay away. He disconnects, detaches himself emotionally, becomes cold and disinterested, directs transformed anger at his mate or at his parents (the more legitimate targets).

Other narcissists see the opportunity in the “mishap”. They seek to manipulate their parents (or their mate) by "taking over" the newcomer. Such narcissists monopolise their siblings or their new-born children. This way, indirectly, the narcissist basks in the attention directed at the infant. An example: by being closely identified with his offspring, a narcissistic father secures the grateful admiration of the mother ("What an outstanding father he is"). He also assumes part of or all the credit for baby’s/sibling’s achievements. This is a process of annexation and assimilation of the other, a strategy that the narcissist makes use of in most of his relationships.

As the baby/sibling grows older, the narcissist begins to see their potential to be edifying, reliable and satisfactory Sources of Narcissistic Supply. His attitude, then, is completely transformed. The former threats have now become promising potentials. He cultivates those whom he trusts to be the most rewarding. He encourages them to idolise him, to adore him, to be awed by him, to admire his deeds and capabilities, to learn to blindly trust and obey him, in short to surrender to his charisma and to become submerged in his folies-de-grandeur. These roles – allocated to them explicitly and demandingly or implicitly and perniciously by the narcissist – are best fulfilled by ones whose mind is not fully formed and independent. The older the siblings or offspring, the more they become critical, even judgmental, of the narcissist. They are better able to put into context and perspective his actions, to question his motives, to anticipate his moves. They refuse to continue to play the mindless pawns in his chess game. They hold grudges against him for what he has done to them in the past, when they were less capable of resistance. They can gauge his true stature, talents and achievements – which, usually, lag far behind the claims that he makes.

This brings the narcissist a full cycle back to the first phase. Again, he perceives his Siblings or sons/daughters as threats. He quickly becomes disillusioned, in one of the spastic devaluation reactions typical of his appraisal of humans around him. He loses all interest, becomes emotionally remote, absent and cold, rejects any effort to communicate with him, citing life pressures and the preciousness and scarceness of his time. He feels burdened, cornered, besieged, suffocated, and claustrophobic. He wants to get away, to abandon his commitments to people who have become totally useless (or even damaging) to him. He does not understand why he has to support them, to suffer their company and he believes himself to have been trapped. He rebels either passively-aggressively (by refusing to act or intentionally sabotaging the relationships) or actively (by being overly critical, aggressive, unpleasant, verbally and psychologically abusive and so on). Slowly – to justify his acts to himself – he gets immersed in conspiracy theories with clear paranoid hues. To his mind, the members of the family conspire against him, seek to belittle or humiliate or subordinate him, do not understand him, stymie his growth. The narcissist usually finally gets what he wants and the family that he has created disintegrates to his great sorrow (due to the loss of the Narcissistic Space) – but also to his great relief and surprise (how could they have let go someone as unique as he?).

This is the cycle: the narcissist feels threatened by arrival of new family members – assimilation of siblings or offspring – obtaining Narcissistic Supply from them – overvaluation of these new sources by the narcissist – as sources grow older and independent, they adopt anti narcissistic behaviours – the narcissist devalues them – the narcissist feels stifled and trapped – the narcissist becomes paranoid – the narcissist rebels and the family disintegrates. This cycle characterises not only the family life of the narcissist. It is to be found in other realms of his life (his career, for instance). At work, the narcissist, initially, feels threatened (no one knows him, he is a nobody). Then, he develops a circle of admirers, cronies and friends which he "nurtures and cultivates" in order to obtain Narcissistic Supply from them. He overvalues them (they are the brightest, the most loyal, with the biggest chances to climb the corporate ladder and other superlatives).

But following some anti-narcissistic behaviours on their part (a critical remark, a disagreement, a refusal, however polite, all constitute such behaviours) – the narcissist devalues all these previously over-valued individuals. Now they are stupid, lack ambition, skills and talents, common (the worst expletive in the narcissist's vocabulary), with an unspectacular career ahead of them. The narcissist feels that he is misallocating his resources (for instance, his time). He feels besieged and suffocated. He rebels and erupts in a serious of self-defeating and self-destructive behaviours, which lead to the disintegration of his life.

Doomed to build and ruin, attach and detach, appreciate and depreciate, the narcissist is predictable in his Death Wish. What sets him apart from other suicidal types is that his wish is granted to him in small, tormenting doses throughout his anguished life.

About The Author

Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" and the editor of mental health categories in The Open Directory, Suite101, and searcheurope.com.

His web site: http://samvak.tripod.com

Frequently asked questions regarding narcissism: http://samvak.tripod.com/faq1.html

Narcissistic Personality Disorder on Suite101: http://www.suite101.com/welcome.cfm/npd



 

Pregnancy.org --> Preconception, Pregnancy and Early Childhood ...
Offering online communities, interactive tools, price robot, articles and a pregnancy calendar. Content spans pre-pregnancy to after birth.
www.pregnancy.org
 
Pregnancy Week by Week Calendar Pregnancy Symptom and Pregnancy ...
The pregnancy calendar can help you find information on pregnancy and childbirth, including a week by week pregnancy calendar, baby shower games, ...
pregnancy.about.com
 
Healthy Pregnancy
How soon after a missed period can I take a home pregnancy test and get ... Pregnancy can be a joyous time. But it also can be a time of uncertainty and ...
www.4woman.gov
 
Pregnancy Info: Birth, Baby, and Maternity Advice
Advice for mothers to be concerning pregnancy, getting pregnant, baby care and maternity.
www.pregnancy-info.net
 
Pregnancy & Parenting: For Today's Mom - iVillage
From trying to conceive through your child's teen years, iVillage Pregnancy & Parenting offers up-to-date and informative articles, features, expert advice ...
parenting.ivillage.com
 
Pregnancy Calendar: Your All-in-One Guide to Pregnancy and ...
A multimedia journey through the first nine months of an unborn child's life. A graphics intensive - visual journey through pregnancy. Needs plug-in.
parenting.ivillage.com
 
Pregnancy: Humorous week-by-week calendar and free pregnancy tickers
Humorous week-by-week pregnancy calendar and pregnancy tickers - 100% free.
pregnancy.baby-gaga.com
 
MedlinePlus: Pregnancy
Search MEDLINE/PubMed for recent research articles on Pregnancy: ... Select services and providers for Pregnancy in your area. Select Location, AL - Alabama ...
www.nlm.nih.gov
 
Pregnancy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Human pregnancy is the most studied of all mammalian pregnancies. ... Though pregnancy begins at implantation, it is often convenient to date from the first ...
en.wikipedia.org
 
POP! The First Human Male Pregnancy - Mr. Lee Mingwei
"Mr. Lee Mingwei will be the first human male to ever birth a baby from his own body." Art project by Virgil Wong, thematizing gender roles, childbearing, ...
www.malepregnancy.com
 
Baby Gaga: Stroller Reviews, Baby Tickers, Pregnancy Calendar
Baby-Gaga offers top quality guides, reviews, and stores for baby strollers. Free baby birthday ticker and pregnancy calendar also available!
www.baby-gaga.com
 
Pregnancy, Pregnancy Information, Pregnancy Community - Powered by ...
Monitor your pregnancy with BabyCenter's free weekly e-mail newsletters and online library of pregnancy information created to help you have a healthy ...
www.pregnancy.com
 
Pregnancy Week-by-Week sponsored by StorkNet
Pregnancy Week-by-Week Guide from StorkNet, your online pregnancy and parenting resource.
www.pregnancyguideonline.com
 
American Pregnancy Association : Promoting Pregnancy and ...
Articles on pregnancy wellness, complications, loss, labor and birth.
www.americanpregnancy.org
 
Pregnancy Discrimination
The Pregnancy Discrimination Act is an amendment to Title VII of the Civil ... Discrimination on the basis of pregnancy, childbirth, or related medical ...
www.eeoc.gov
 
Pregnancy Today
A community for expectant parents, offering many unique features to guide you through pregnancy.
pregnancytoday.com
 
Pregnancy Center - MayoClinic.com
Pregnancy Center — comprehensive information on pregnancy symptoms, healthy pregnancy, childbirth options, labor and delivery.
www.mayoclinic.com
 
Pregnancy
Information Resources · More about Pregnancy/Childbirth Complications and Concerns ... Pregnancy Choices. Family Planning and Contraception ...
www.noah-health.org
 
Unplanned Pregnancy and Abortion Information from Option Line
Provides information on abortion alternatives, free pregnancy tests, adoption, connects you with local centers for free counseling, mapping to local centers ...
www.pregnancycenters.org
 
WebMD Pregnancy Center - Learn the early signs of pregnancy and ...
Sign up for our Pregnancy & Parenting Newsletter! ... Get daily facts, tips and suggestions customized to your stage of pregnancy. ...
www.webmd.com
 
 

 

Content Menu
  • 100 top baby names

  • 10 free gift ideas for a birthday

  • 10 points on children for the new parent

  • 10 pregnancy risk factors that every pregnant woman should be aware of

  • 10 risk factors that every pregnant woman should be aware of

  • 34 menopause symptoms are you suffering from one or more of these

  • 5 absolute signs of pregnancy

  • 5 heart healthy exercises you can do during pregnancy

  • 6 reasons to exercise during pregnancy

  • 6 simple rules to come up with the perfect name for your baby

  • 7 breastfeeding myths dispelled

  • 7 good reasons to have your cat spayed or neutered

  • 7 tips for a healthy pregnancy

  • 8 simple tips for taking great baby photos

  • 9 quick breastfeeding tips

  • adhd hyperactivity

  • adult acne treatment to treat a condition that no one talks about

  • advice on buying maternity wear

  • alcohol and pregnancy

  • alisons journey home an adoption story part 1

  • alprazolam xanax a habit forming drug

  • amusing facts about babies

  • anemia during pregnancy

  • are maternity clothes necessary in order to look good during pregnancy

  • aromatherapy and pregnancy

  • at the junction

  • author interview mommy come home

  • a baby is born with several reflexes

  • a few quick pregnancy fatigue tips

  • a new baby can be expensive

  • a pregnant stray cat adopted you and now what

  • a quick guide on how to get pregnant

  • a simple method for choosing the perfect name for your new baby

  • a step by step plan to a healthy pregnancy

  • a surprise baby shower can be the perfect way to celebrate

  • babies how to get your children excited about the new arrival

  • baby feeding options for the working mother

  • baby girl shower invitations

  • baby is coming are you ready

  • baby lullaby

  • baby shower decorations

  • baby shower game distraction

  • baby shower gift ideas

  • baby shower gift ideas 2

  • baby shower hostess etiquette

  • baby shower on a budget

  • baby shower planning and hosting

  • baby shower themes

  • baby sleep tips

  • backache headache your bra could be the cause

  • beauty comes from within

  • bedridden mother baby shower party

  • being a mom reflections on mothers day

  • being pregnant is not a hurdle to enjoy a little romance

  • best tips on getting pregnant

  • be prepared know the pregnancy discrimination act

  • birthparent loss and grief

  • birth defects and miscarriages and infertility

  • birth of a baby birth of a parent

  • birth of a parent

  • bless your child with the name

  • bra sizes and bra types finding the right fit

  • breastfeeding a baby

  • breastfeeding breast is best

  • breastfeeding handling criticism

  • breast augmentation basics

  • breast enhancement the natural way to do it

  • breast enlargement

  • breast feeding frequently asked questions

  • breast or bottle which is right for you

  • budget baby layettes

  • building a pregnancy work wardrobe on a budget

  • buying for baby

  • calcium and pregnancy

  • calculate your due date easily with an online pregnancy calculator

  • candida yeast infection many have it few know it

  • can motherhood make you smarter

  • cats with feline diabetes can still lead a happy life

  • cause of stretch marks stretch marks medicine and stretch marks prevention cream

  • celebrating fathers

  • changes during a womans menopause

  • cheekybrats and mothers

  • cheekybrats mothers

  • chinese pregnancy

  • choosing the best baby shower games

  • christening and baptism favor ideas

  • common pregnancy complications

  • common pregnancy myths

  • common pregnancy problems

  • common sense approach to pregnancy weight loss

  • common sense approach to weight loss after a pregnancy

  • conceiving a baby and conception positions

  • conception myths and facts

  • concerns about sex during pregnancy

  • congratulations on your 6th month of pregnancy

  • coping with an unplanned pregnancy

  • coping with morning sickness

  • crafts for baby shower decorating

  • craving is okay but dont forget pre natal vitamins

  • cute cat names and how to find them

  • dating and sex

  • dating a parents worst fear it doesnt have to be

  • days to get pregnant when is the best time to get pregnant

  • dealing with common pregnancy complaints

  • dietary precautions during pregnancy

  • differences between perfume and perfume oils

  • dilemma to bottle feed or breastfeed

  • dinner scooped off the floor

  • discover the secrets of citrus fruits and healthy eating

  • does the world need more cats

  • early menopause symptoms are you suffering from first symptoms of menopause

  • every baby shower needs great baby shower games

  • exercise after pregnancy

  • exercise during pregnancy

  • exercising after pregnancy

  • factors that will affect sperm health

  • facts you should know about baby shower etiquette

  • fade my freckles

  • fashion after 40

  • feeling sexy during pregnancy

  • female dog care

  • female hair loss finding a hair loss solution

  • female hair loss treatment and information

  • fibroid tumors

  • fibromyalgia facts for females

  • fighting the pregnancy blahs

  • finally swimwear that everyone can feel good in

  • fishy vaginal odor bacterial vaginosis

  • fitness while pregnant information you should know

  • fitness while pregnant is it safe

  • five easy steps to picking the perfect baby name

  • five powerful tips to ease morning sickness in pregnancy

  • five tips for unplanned pregnancies

  • five ways to read your bodys changes before pregnancy test

  • folic acid an overview

  • foods to avoid during pregnancy

  • fun and unique baby shower favors

  • fun unique baby shower favors

  • gagged while giving birth

  • getting onto the playing field of love

  • getting your husband involved in caring for your baby

  • get back in shape after the birth of your baby a gentle 10 point plan

  • giving birth myths believe em or not

  • glutathione for a healthier pregnancy

  • good exercises to do when pregnant

  • have you lost your mind

  • hcg human chorionic gonada what

  • health and fitness in pregnancy and delivering a healthy baby

  • health tips for your baby

  • helping a friend through a miscarriage

  • helping a loved one cope with postpartum depression

  • help ive got a pregnant cat

  • help i am pregnant and an addict

  • here is the best assistance concerning pregnancy signs

  • hiv and older women

  • home schooling 101

  • hospitals around the country are now banning vaginal birth after cesarean delivery

  • how much tv is too much for your toddler

  • how much weight should you gain during pregnancy

  • how stretch marks can be prevented or repaired

  • how to assisttroubled teens

  • how to assist troubled teens

  • how to avoid post partum depression

  • how to avoid swelling when pregnant

  • how to conceal hair loss following pregnancy

  • how to deal with headaches during pregnancy

  • how to eat a healthy diet during pregnancy

  • how to feel attractive feminine and sexy

  • how to find a good pediatrician in your area

  • how to get your pre pregnancy body back

  • how to give birth safely

  • how to give the perfect massage

  • how to have a beautiful skin

  • how to have the perfect baby boy invitations

  • how to lose the baby weight without starving yourself

  • how to lose weight after having a baby

  • how to lose weight after pregnancy

  • how to lower cholesterol for children

  • how to make a diaper cake

  • how to make a time capsule for your new baby

  • how to make personalized candle gifts from ordinary candles

  • how to make your own printable invitations for any occasion

  • how to make your own refrigerator magnets

  • how to make your own soap favors for weddings and baby showers

  • how to make your printable bridal and baby shower games

  • how to pick the best name for your baby

  • how to pick the perfect maternity wedding dress

  • how to prevent varicose veins

  • how to reduce the risk for being a victim of road rage

  • how to remove stretch marks

  • how to save money on wedding and baby shower favors

  • how to stop your cat spraying

  • how to teach your baby sign language

  • how would you like to look sexy during pregnancy on your photos

  • hubbie help simple ways that a husband can help a pregnant wife

  • ice underwear and alcohol boy or girl

  • important questions concerning caesarian sections

  • incontinence improving muscle tone

  • increase your chances of having a baby

  • index

  • infertility and pregnancy

  • is a baby allowed to play in its first month

  • is a birthing center right for you

  • is my child autistic how can i tell

  • is provigil effective for the symptoms of add and adhd

  • is safe sex really safe

  • is there sex after motherhood

  • is your bra hazardous to your health

  • its not a sin for pregnant women to have a massage

  • it is not a sin for pregnant women to have a massage

  • keeping your breast milk healthy

  • kegal exercises during pregnancy

  • kegel exercises during pregnancy

  • kegel exercise for a healthy pregnancy

  • kicked in the ribs while giving birth

  • labor and delivery

  • laser hair removal

  • learning to see by traveling with a teddy bear

  • life after birth

  • long distance baby shower

  • managing your energy after childbirth

  • maternity clothes dressing for your pregnancy

  • maternity clothes trends

  • medicine and women guide

  • men and sperm health

  • men and stretchmarks

  • mommy whisperer

  • moral armor on predational pregnancy

  • morning sickness all day sickness

  • morning sickness survival tips

  • mother to daughter a guide to handling your childs first period

  • natural treatments for morning sickness

  • new baby

  • new baby guide

  • new book helps worried owners of a pregnant cat

  • no invitation needed sacred children series 3 of 3

  • number 1 key to good parenting

  • nursing in style

  • odds of getting pregnant and age

  • off label use of cytotec drawbacks to popular labor inducing drug

  • older women hiv

  • online pregnancy test are you pregnant

  • pamper your pregnancy naturally

  • parenting starts before pregnancy

  • parenting the irrational vocation

  • paternity test are you the one

  • placenta previa questions answered

  • plus size bras larger online selection

  • plus size maternity clothes keep baby and mom comfortable

  • positive down syndrome non profit

  • post natal massage therapy

  • pregnancy exercise

  • pregnancy exercise and diet tips sensible advice for expectant mothers

  • pregnancy fitness after the baby is born

  • pregnancy massage therapy

  • pregnancy naturally

  • pregnancy photography tips for the belly

  • pregnancy photos

  • pregnancy planner a quick guide

  • pregnancy sex its a wonderful thing

  • pregnancy symptoms

  • pregnancy symptoms signs and symptoms of being pregnant

  • pregnancy week by week

  • pregnancy weight gain the mystery solved

  • pregnancy winsor pilates a dove like exercise for moms

  • pregnant women dont just stay at home go shopping

  • premature birth relieving a mothers guilt

  • prenatal health folic acid an overview

  • preparing a sibling for baby

  • preparing for the birth of a baby essential baby clothes

  • problems associated with teen pregnancy

  • public school sex education classes bad news for parents and children

  • questions to ask a pediatrician for new to be parents

  • quick tips for successful baby shower

  • raising healthy babies cant start too early

  • rawsome beauty luck of the draw or within reach of all

  • reasons for adopting a child

  • rotator

  • serious birth disorders and baby issues

  • sexy momma feeling sexy during and after pregnancy

  • sex and pregnancy overcoming your most common fears

  • sex during pregnancy

  • sex pregnancy do they mix

  • shared dancing has benefits for babies and new moms alike

  • should the dad attend the birth of his baby

  • sids sudden infant death syndrome what you need to know

  • sleep during pregnancy

  • smoking during pregnancy

  • so you think youre pregnant a brief discussion of common pregnancy symptoms

  • so you want to know the truth about child birth and labor

  • start growing healthy children before getting pregnant

  • strattera the new adhd medication

  • stress and pregnancy

  • stress relief during pregnancy

  • stretch marks causes and treatment options

  • stretch marks cause and treatment options

  • stretch marks prevention and treatment during pregnancy

  • stretch mark creams preventative treatment for stretch marks

  • stylize your wardrobe 5 ways to make the most of what you already own

  • successful weight loss after pregnancy

  • surviving a c section

  • take an online pregnancy test for free

  • teach me im yours if you want your child to be smart you be the first teacher

  • teeny weenie pregnancies

  • teen pregnancy prevention

  • ten questions about pregnancy you might not want to ask your doctor

  • there has never been a more fashionable time to be pregnant

  • the 5 things you should know before breeding cats

  • the abortion debate

  • the benefits of pregnancy massage

  • the benefits of waterbirthing

  • the best breastfeeding advice i ever got

  • the best postpartum exercise

  • the chinese year of the dog

  • the chinese year of the dragon

  • the chinese year of the goat

  • the chinese year of the horse

  • the chinese year of the monkey

  • the chinese year of the ox

  • the chinese year of the pig

  • the chinese year of the rabbit

  • the chinese year of the rat

  • the chinese year of the snake

  • the chinese year of the tiger

  • the complex world of male female relationships

  • the effects of televised sexual content on adolescents

  • the effect of hysterectomy on sexual response and sexual identity

  • the essence of infidelity

  • the first week with your baby

  • the great awakening menopause

  • the importance of prenatal vitamins

  • the name game tips for picking the best baby name

  • the offspring of aeolus on the incest taboo

  • the origins of mothers day

  • the origin and history of valentines day

  • the personality traits of a pisces baby

  • the pregnancy glow and other myths of motherhood

  • the sleepless challenge

  • the supermum myth exposed

  • the top 5 reasons why unwed parents must establish paternity

  • the truth about childbirth and labor

  • the truth about early pregnancy tests

  • the wooden room

  • things you should avoid during pregnancy

  • things you should know about a molar pregnancy

  • three bs of buying for baby

  • tips for a first time dad

  • tips for a first time mom

  • tips for a healthy pregnancy

  • tips for easing the pain of chidbirth

  • tips for naming your baby

  • toddler tantrums

  • tough time deciding on a name for your baby

  • to invite or not to invite the dad to the shower

  • to love forever

  • treat morning sickness naturally

  • trends in modern bra wear

  • trial by fire 9 tips for grieving couples

  • triumphing over tantrums

  • truth behind a pregnant womans food craving and how to control it

  • twins pregnancya fathers point of view

  • twins pregnancy a fathers point of view

  • types of baby shower invitations

  • types of diabetes

  • understanding ectopic pregnancy

  • understanding preeclampsia

  • understanding your introverted teen

  • unusual baby boy names finding exotic and unique baby names

  • useful tips for sleep and pregnancy

  • vacation is one way to run away from stress during pregnancy

  • very early signs of pregnancy do you know the 10 pregnancy signs

  • very early symptoms of pregnancy do you know these very early pregnancy signs

  • vitamin c can prevent pregnancy complication

  • weight gain during pregnancy and weight loss after pregnancy

  • weight gain during pregnancy choosing the right foods

  • weight loss tips after the birth of your baby

  • well well youre having twins 11 top tips on working with newborn twins

  • what are the causes of yeast infection in women

  • what are the signs of ovulation and what is the most fertile time in my cycle

  • what do you want to be when you grow up

  • what foods should i avoid while breastfeeding

  • what is abuse

  • what is morning sickness does it mean theres a problem

  • what julia roberts has to say about motherhood

  • what not to give your unborn child

  • what to expect from a home pregnancy test

  • what to expect from a twin pregnancy abcs of multiple birth

  • what would i do without my doula

  • what you need to know about tubal pregnancy

  • when to have a baby shower

  • when to start teaching your baby 1

  • when to take a pregnancy test

  • why child bearing is healthy

  • why modern moms are going back to the basics the evolution of the cloth diaper

  • why pregnant women get stressed and depressed

  • womens hair loss issues

  • womens health pregnancy nutrition is for all women of child bearing age

  • women in transition from post feminism to past femininity

  • yoga for mothers

  • yoga for pregnant women

  • your babys colic

  • your breast augmentation in florida

  • your new bra support the right size

  • your perfectly pampered pregnancy guide to treating colds and flu

  • you can do exercise during pregnancy but dont overdo it

  • you dont have to suffer with pms

  • you might be pregnant if

  • yummy mummy tummies