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Destiny Is Intention, Not Guaranteed
Destiny Is Intention, Not Guaranteed
by
Dave Czach
The following statement is commonly overheard and can lead you to a life of delusion and disappointment: "I feel like I'm destined to ... (do this or that)."
The belief in destiny is...
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They need us to be truthful
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Robert Elias Najemy
AFFIRMATION
Everyone likes a pat on the back, recognition, strokes, praise or affirmation of his or her ability, goodness and worthiness. Our children...
The Enchanted Cottage
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Decades ago, I saw a metaphysical movie that wonderfully illustrates the alchemical power of love. In "The Enchanted Cottage," a homely, self-effacing maid and a blind, crippled war hero fall in love. She blossoms into an...
What is your PROBLEM? There Must Be 50 Ways to…”
“What is your problem?” Have you ever gotten exasperated and asked someone that in “that” tone of voice?
Mary: “I want to move near my grandchildren, but how on earth will I move myself up there alone?”
You: “Just call a moving company. What is...
Your Home and Your Golden Years
You've worked hard to afford the home you live in today. You have undoubtedly invested sweat equity as well as money to maintain your home and gradually shape it to the comfortable living space that now says, “This is who I am.” Your ultimate dream...
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Let's Say You're a Dog. Are You So Competitive You'd Eat a Carrot?
Seems like a girl always learns something out on the farm! Yes, it’s a farm tale and I’m going to change the names of the animals to protect the guilty!
I spent last weekend down in Lower Alabama where my friend from high school owns a farm. On the neighboring property there lives a donkey we’ll call “Jake.” On my friend’s property there lives a dog – his dog – we’ll call “Spot.”
Okay, not too original, but it serves the purpose.
So as night falls, the evening ritual is to go out and feed the animals.
Out we go, 3 large carrots in hand – well, his hand. His wife and I are just watching. My friend calls to Jake who, having 5 acres to roam, is nowhere in sight. Spot is circling around my friend, jumping up, spinning around. I’m sure you’ve seen this. Spot has been trained not to bark, but he’s doing every other thing he can to attract attention, and acting ecstatic. Over a carrot??
“Spot’s so jealous, he’ll actually eat a carrot,” says my friend, as we walk along.
Now, I’ve owned a couple of dogs in my day. You probably have too. Never did I have one who would eat a carrot. In
fact it was a family fun time to watch one dog called Shy Nell when we would put vegetable soup in her dog dish for a
treat – Campbells, canned. She’d dive in and 2 seconds later walk away with nothing left in the bowl – I mean not
even a lick of gravy – except for the carefully out-selected squares of carrot.
“Pretty discriminating tongue,” I’d tell my son. “Imagine being able to select out those bits of carrot without
fingers!”
“I hate carrots too,” he would reply.
We can hear Jake making his way
through the underbrush, and hear the breathing. Then my friend starts raising his voice, calling, and Jakes starts his braying, to answer. When the three meet – my friend, Jake, and Spot, Jake gets his head and back rubbed, and lots and lots of marvelous
attention. And there sits Spot, even willing to eat a carrot in order to be included.
Take home points for you?
·Paired-conditioning is powerful
·If you’re eating a “carrot” make sure what you’re doing it for is worth it
·You’re a person, ask for what you want, don’t accept the substitute
·Remain mindful, lest the "carrot" become the only reward, and something you don't want, you just don't want someone else to have it!
The Golden Handcuffs, of course – when you’re working for the money, but the rest of it just isn’t worth it.
Or when you’re competing for a girl, a job, a promotion, a house … and get so lost in the competition, you aren’t
mindful of whether the “catch” is what you really want. Don’t end up working for your ego, not your heart.
Be mindful!
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