This article briefly summerizes how to overcome pain and trauma of break ups.
I remember the feeling of being told that the person I was dating serious didnīt want to date me anymore. I remember the pain. It hurt so bad my stomach was sick. I didnīt want to get out of bed. I wanted to cry and cry. My family said, "you really think you wonīt find someone, come on, get over it. That didnīt help much. However, I soon realized that I needed to move on. If I continued feeling that pain I wouldnīt be able to do much. Furthermore, I began realizing that I was a good person and that the person who was breaking off the relationship had that choice to make. Finally, time contributed to my healing.

Below is a list of things you can do to move on:

1) Donīt have a pity party. It is okay to feel bad and it is normal, but an extended pity party turns into depression if we arenīt careful.

2) Be grateful that you arenīt going to be dating someone who doesnīt want to date you anymore. It is more destructive to date someone who doesnīt love us than to be alone preparing to meet someone who can love us.

3) Prepare to move on. The stronger you are in dealing with the break up the more prepared you will be as you move

4) Be confident. Just because someone broke up with you doesnīt mean there is something wrong with you. If you did do something wrong, learn from your mistake and course correct so it doesnīt happen again.

5) Learn from every dating experience. If you are dating and going through a lot of relationships, you should be learning from your mistakes. If you arenīt do a self evaluation and learn to break bad patterns.

Remember, the best divorce is the one you get before you are married

About the Author

Ajay Patole is a qualified management professional working as sales manager and runs a site 'Venturemall',a cool hangout to play money games,buy and sell in auctions,date and photochat.It is available at URL http://venturemall.tripod.com and newsletter to rediscover true colors of life at http://www.topica.com/lists/venturemall.Also he runs a community 'Venturecon', for entrepreneurs which is available at URL http://groups.msn.com/venturecon.