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Finding Joy in Christmas- When Everything 'Feels' Wrong
The year 2001 proved to be a life altering one. Barring our own personal problems which already may have had you in a state of despair, the attack on America left the nation- the world- in a state of sadness, disbelief and hopelessness.
As we...
Forgiveness
In a world full of vengence and spite, how can we forgive?
This is a nation big on vengeance. We lock people up for life, we execute criminals, we bomb whole countries to get even for the sins of a few. We seem to have forgotten how to...
Sign of Affair: I Fell Out of Love...and just love being in love
If there is one front-and-forward excuse for infidelity it is: " I fell out of love."
This usually means: I no longer feel sexually attracted to you (I'm sexually attracted to someone else, for now, at least.) Or, I need to spice my life with...
The Gift Is the Path Itself
The Gift Is The Path Itself
Helaine Iris
© 2002
“The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.” —Byron Katie
“You have one year to live”.
For a good...
What Divorce Parenting Practices is Best Appropriate for School-Age Children?
It is being said that how bad or how well children go through the divorce depends on how the situation is handled. And believe me when I tell you that there is an appropriate divorce parenting practices for children of any age for them to be...
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Pet Loss Can Be Just As Devastating!
'And all because of a damned cat! It's only a cat, for God's
sake!'
I'll never forget the wracking sobs of the girl sitting
before me, and the disbelief on the face of the mother who
uttered these words.
I was a Guidance Counsellor in a city high school, and the
girl's performance had slumped in recent weeks. Her mother
couldn't believe it might possibly be related to the loss of
the girl's pet cat.
It became obvious that there wasn't much of a bond between
mother and daughter. So over the years the girl's need to
receive and GIVE affection had been transferred to her cat.
Now that the cat had passed on, the girl was devastated.
What made matters worse was her mother's total lack of
insight.
Studies carried out by veterinary associations in the UK
suggest that most kids will have a pet of some kind at some
time: cats, dogs, mice, hamsters - whatever! - and it's
probably the same in other countries.
Since kids' pets are so common, it's well for parents to
be aware of the impact they can have on their children's lives.
Psychologists talk of the 'human - companion animal bond',
which can be as strong as any human-to-human bond. Or
even stronger, as in the case of the girl above.
So when the loss, illness or death of a pet occurs, the impact
can be just as devastating.
Many families (parents as well as kids) will be familiar
with the grief and devastation brought on by the death of a
faithful dog.
But some parents think that the death of a mouse or fish is
no big deal. It's a tiny animal, so no great loss!
They fail to realise that the attachment or BOND between
child and animal is not measured by the animal's size! It's
the level of emotional investment that counts.
In fact we now know that the reaction to a pet's death can
go through exactly the same process as that of the loss of a
loved one.- Denial (No, he'll be okay. He can't have
died!)
- Bargaining (If I get him back I'll look after him
properly this time!)
- Anger (It's the vet's fault. OR I should have
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done this
or that!)
- Grief (There's a void in my life now!)
- Moving On (He'll always be in my heart, but I'm
coping now)
How can we help our kids cope with this complex process?
Obviously, the first thing is to recognise the impact of the
loss, and we can learn from the example of the mother above.
It also goes without saying that we must encourage our kids
to express their grief and explore their feelings.
And we must also recognise the value of a 'rite of passage'.
This is a ceremony, simple or otherwise, whereby the
participants realise they have moved from one situation or
status to another.
Following the death of a pet, this can be a burial or a
memorial ceremony. As parents we MUST attend - it's not some
simple game the kids are playing in the backyard!
It's a deeply emotional, psychological coming to terms with
a potentially devastating loss.
Encourage the kids, then, to treat it seriously. Let them
pick or buy flowers. Let them draw pictures, write poems
and/or sing songs. Let them say prayers of gratitude for the
companionship they enjoyed. Let them express their grief!
Then, at all costs, avoid the temptation to supply a
'replacement' pet. Kids must have time to EXPERIENCE the
void, so that they can come to terms with it and in due time
move on.
At that point 'another' pet (not a 'replacement') can be
considered.
Experiencing both the joys and loss of a pet can be a sound
emotional training for the unpredictability of life.
By treating this aspect of their childhood seriously and
sensitively we can do our kids an immense favour.
Happy parenting!
Why do some parents and children succeed, while others
fail?
Frank McGinty is an internationally published author and
teacher. If you want to develop your parenting skills and
encourage your kids to be all they can be, visit his web
pages,
http://www.frank-mcginty.com/peace-formula.html
AND
http://www.frank-mcginty.com/for-parents.html
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