1. Take an "Action Vacation". Tell yourself that you are not going to work on your weight, your job, your relationship or your life for one whole week. When your mind wants you to work, work, work. You tell it that you are on an "Action Vacation" and that you will get back to it next week. 2. Tell one person how you are feeling. A spouse or friend is preferable, but I have found that waiters, bus drivers and car wash attendants all have the facility to listen. You may get many reactions. People are uncomfortable with discomfort and they may try to fix your problem. Their reaction doesn't matter - what is important is that you express the feelings and don't feel the need to explain why. 3. Take a walk. Somehow physical activity has a way of quieting the mind. I like to listen to music when I walk, because this allows me to shut out the incessant chatter of my "doer" brain, but complete silence may be your preference. 4. Take a long hot, bubbly bath. This is the oldest trick in the book, and it works. 5. Write down everything that is going on in your head - fears, anxieties, questions and thoughts. Read it over and over until it means nothing or until you are rolling around on the floor laughing at yourself. 6. Read a self-help book. Some people call them "shelf help," because we buy them and leave them on the shelf. Go to your bookshelf and choose one. Or go to your local library and find something that makes you feel good when reading the book jacket. 7. Do something you never allow yourself to do. Watch T.V. in the middle of the day, skip your exercise class and have an ice cream. Take a nap with dirty dishes in the sink. 8. Visualize. Lay down in a quiet place and relax every muscle in your body one by one and then begin to create pictures in your head. Create what you intend to have in life. Maybe you want to visualize your own peace of mind or, perhaps you want to visualize turning your problem or issue over to a higher power. Visualizing is very powerful even if the images are not clear in your mind. There are some wonderful books about visualization that can take you step by step through the process of visualization. One of my favorites is "Creative Visualization" by Shakti Gawain 9. Open a book of prayers, daily thoughts or meditations and read the page that you happen to find first. There are three books that I use for this purpose; Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach, A Course in Miracles and Illuminata by Marianne Williamson. Each approaches life from a different and profound perspective. When you are not in the gray zone, add to this list and delete anything that doesn't work for you. Over time you will create your own personal "doer's guide to being." When you begin to feel the impulse to look for solutions - things to "do", tell your mind that you appreciate its input, but that you have chosen to "do" something else right now and let that voice fall away. Remember - it takes practice to shift from "doing" to "being" at will. But even a few moments of "being" will rejuvenate the "doer" in you.

About the Author

Jamee Tenzer is a professional coach who specializes in working with women who are committed to professional and personal success and fulfillment - in other words, these women are "doers." The foundation of her coaching practice is the belief that if we pursue the dreams that truly inspire us, we can have what we desire in life. For more information, please visit www.lifeworks4ucoaching.com